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Before we can taste the beauty of success, we must experience failure so many times that the average person will contemplate giving up. Why you ask? Well, for several reasons. Sometimes the self esteem can not take that many hits without collapsing. Other times people just decide to pursue other things that seem easier to them. When you feel like your dreams will never come true, read these five reasons why you shouldn’t give up. I hope I can motivate you to try just one thing to keep you on the road to those dreams you have. I promise you are worth it and so are your dreams. (more…)
“I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in His word I put my hope.” (Psalm 130:5)
I have heard it so many times, I can’t even count. From relatives, from friends, from even best friends, I’ve heard it. My pain is only in my mind. It can’t be that bad. Oh my gosh, you’re sick AGAIN!
Illness has taught me patience. I’ve learned not to fret when my day involves a lot of waiting–at the doctor’s office, at the pharmacy, or the next specialist I’m meeting with. I’ve learned that doctor’s can’t solve everything and that if they don’t know the answer, they will give you a prescription and send you on your way.I’ve learned that is hard to explain to others that you’ve been to several doctors and you are still in pain because they don’t seem to be able to help you.
Waiting patiently has spilled over into other areas of my life. I have learned not to get upset when plans change, I’ve learned to not be anxious when I just can’t bring myself to get out of bed one day. Patience is a virtue that God tries to teach us through the bible, but many are always running, seeking, waiting for the next thing. I have learned to have patience on the Lord and know that in the right time, my life will turn out just the way, He meant it to all along.
One of the hardest times, for me to wait is when I’m in the midst of a flare-up and all I’m capable of doing is lying in bed. Often, I listen to music or watch television or read to keep myself distracted, but eventually the worry and frustration work their way to the surface. Some days I feel sad and closed in. Other days I feel guilty that I am not doing things around the house. I admit the depression and isolation get to me. My friends call and I can’t answer because I’m either in alot of pain at the time or just don’t feel like talking. I know no one understands this, unless you deal with this chronic pain yourself. I have tried many times to make people realize, I don’t hide on purpose and I really am in pain, but many just brush it off, and go about their day. I have learned to be okay with this, because I know, unless you’ve been in my shoes you can’t understand where I am coming from.
I have found that the only true comfort I get is from the Lord and His Word. When I feel overwhelmed, I know that I can turn to God, and He will calm my anxious mind. Meditating on the promises in His Word allows me to find peace and hope. Reminding myself of His love for me helps me to calm down and look for ways to pour my heart out to Him and to praise Him. I don’t believe that He wants me to feel pain or that I have done something bad to deserve this. I believe He feels I am strong enough to handle this and get through it on my own. That gives me faith that He knows my strengths.
For the last few months, I have spent more time in bed, flat on my back, breathing through the pain and spasms. Even in these circumstances, I sense the presence of God, and I feel encouraged to hold on and trust that His goodness will prevail.
For those of you who have a friend, spouse or relative that is constantly ill, please try to show some sympathy to their pain. They are only trying to get through their day.
“Don’t judge another individual and what they feel, till you have stood in their shoes”
Written By: Debbie A. DeVita
March 23th 2012
Oh my, It might be that time. I’m getting those butterflies again. I absolutely love those flickers of when you think you’re interested in someone. The last time I fell for someone, I crash landed.
It came out of nowhere and to be honest, I’ve finally recovered from it. To have a slower spark is a bit of a relief. I’m also a pretty impulsive person, so having time to sort things out probably isn’t the worst thing for me. For once I want to use my brain instead of my heart. For once I want to know that this thing I’m feeling is real before my heart takes a leap and ends up breaking for real.
Here’s the problem of the hour: while the new guy is pretty much perfect on paper, that’s my problem. In other words, it’s hard to believe that it’s going to work out and I am going to be happy in a relationship for once in a long while. I know its cliche to say “I’ve been hurt so many times before” but I don’t care because for this girl, it’s truer than any person on this planet, friend or foe knows. I’ve been down this road and that road and every road in between and to tell you the truth, I’m not sure these butterflies I’m feeling even really exist. Is it just some fantasy I’ve created? Am I really floating high from his touch and kiss because I know when the floating starts I am bound to drop face first right back where I started from. Could this be real? For once am I ready to take that chance and let go of my heart to see what he’s really got?
I’m more than ready to let go, and take the leap, to trust someone again, and believe, but the bar is set pretty high to obtain my trust and love. You have to be a pretty special person to get me to fall. You see I’ve fallen for them all. They all say what you want to hear, but when the time comes to get serious, they all disappear. You all know what I mean; they have their catch phrases, the ones you want to hear. The ones that make you go weak in the knees and lose yourself in the words you were longing to hear. But just once, could these words be true? Could I really be falling for the one that is true?
Trying to hop over it isn’t going to be easy. In the meantime, I’m going to bask in the warm fuzziness of butterflies and the endless possibilities of what might be…..
Written by: Debbie A. DeVita
February 16th 2012